Sometimes and particularly when it involves another person, we want something so badly that we can’t see another possibility that is right there in front of us. All we have to do is “let go” of how we think it should look. Sounds simple, yet we get so focused on our view that we find ourselves not open to another person’s view or concerns and we end up “locking horns”.
This morning, I had a conversation with a client who’s married and wants to have a child. Her husband has been very resistant claiming that he didn’t know if he could be a “good” father and the thought of being a father scared him. He was worried about how it would disrupt their free and easy life style…. a legitimate concern. For months they want back and forth arguing for their position even to the point of questioning their marriage. This past weekend snuggling in bed, she said to him, “perhaps we should consider you getting a vasectomy, so that we don’t have to worry about an accidental pregnancy”. To which he replied, “oh, I don’t want to do that …. in fact after talking with my friend I’m looking forward to whatever happens. If we get pregnant, than it was meant to be”. A whole new possibility was born out of her letting go!
So what are you holding on to? And if you let go of your view… what would that make available?